Running out of topics to talk about while talking to your boyfriend or girlfriend? Here are 25 conversations that can help bring both of you closer.
By Morgan Miller
Happy conversations are the difference between a happy relationship and a boring one.
Conversations can help both of you understand each other better, and help both of you bond better.
Have you ever felt like you’re running out of things to talk about, be it over the phone on an all night call or while you’re just spending an afternoon together?
Topics to talk about in a relationship
When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy for the right topics to talk about to slip right past your fingers.
If you’re in a new relationship, both of you may have so many questions to ask each other.
But the fear of sounding rude or getting too personal may leave a lot of empty space in a conversation.
And if you’re in a seasoned relationship, both of you may be so accustomed to each other that silence may seem perfectly normal.
But every now and then, you do need to bring the excitement and life into a relationship by talking about the right things.
No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, it’s always communication that brings two lovers closer together, and leads to better understanding. [Read: The real power of words in a relationship]
25 interesting topics to talk about
Almost all of these conversation ideas can be repeated in your together time, and the best part about these topics is that your partner will always have a new answer each time you ask most of these questions.
You can use these questions with your boyfriend or girlfriend, or use them even if you’re married.
Use these 25 topics, and you’ll realize just how easily you can build the chemistry and love in your relationship, just by talking about the right things.
#1 Plans for the weekend. Talk about your weekend plans together even if it’s still Monday evening. It’s exciting and fun, and it’ll give both of you something to look forward to after a long week of work.
By having something to look forward to, it’ll even help both of you get through the week with enthusiasm because you know you have a good weekend coming up.
#2 Compliments. Talk about the things you like or admire about your partner. Let them know just how much you appreciate them, be it about their personality or about something they did the earlier week. [Read: 25 compliments for guys they'll never forget]
#3 Daily worries. ‘So what’s been worrying you lately?’ sounds so simple, but yet, it’s something that can make your partner feel grateful and cared for. Even if they have no worries, just knowing that you care would make them feel good about being in the relationship.
#4 Work. There’s always something to talk about work, be it a new project or a bad boss. By talking about each other’s work life, it’ll help both of you understand each other’s professional sides and ethics better.
#5 The little secrets. Secrets are always fun to talk about. You can talk about secrets as a game where each of you have to take turns to reveal one new secret. It’ll be a lot of fun, and both of you can get to know each other more intimately.
#6 Movies and TV shows. There’s always something new and fun every week when it comes to movies and shows. Talk about each other’s favorite shows or the movies both of you are excited to watch. [Read: 25 signs he loves you even if he doesn't say it out loud]
#7 Food and restaurants. Even if your lover isn’t passionate about cooking, they’d at least appreciate good food. Talk about new restaurants or places both of you should visit over the weekend or on a special day. It’ll give both of you a chance to explore cuisines together and also make dinner plans for the weeks to come.
#8 Personal dreams. Talk about your dreams with your partner. Tell them what you intend to do or what your visions and dreams are. It’ll make for great conversations, and help your partner get to know your personal side better.
#9 Vacations. Plan your vacations or weekend getaways weeks or even months earlier. Vacations are almost always the highlight of an entire calendar year, so even dreamily planning it ahead of time can get both of you excited.
#10 Hobbies and personal interests. What do you enjoy doing in your own private time? Share your thoughts with your lover. Chances are, your partner too may have a few hobbies that you like.
#11 Friends. It’s always good to know more about each other’s friends. It’s a step closer to learning more about your partner’s life and what they do, especially when you aren’t around. [Read: 13 signs your friends are ruining your perfect relationship]
#12 Proud moments. Ask your boyfriend or girlfriend to tell you about the moments in life when they’ve felt really proud of their own achievements. Memorable moments and childhood memories always provide for hours of fun, hilarious conversations.
#13 Offer help. Ask your partner if you could help them with something, even if it’s as silly as a chore. Working together on tasks always brings two people closer. And it’ll always make your partner feel grateful for having you around.
#14 Five year plans. If you’ve been dating for a while, talk about where you see yourself five years from now as a couple. Having shared goals always makes the relationship stronger and gives both of you something to work towards.
#15 Self improvement. When you talk about your own flaws and where you’d like to improve, it helps your partner feel more relaxed and comfortable, and they’d break down their own high walls and talk about their vulnerabilities too.
#16 Families. Talking about each other’s families gives hours of interesting details and gossip. And it also helps make first introductions and spending time with family more fun.
#17 Problems in the bedroom. Never push problems in the bedroom under the carpet. At some point, they’ll always come back to haunt both of you. If you aren’t able to perform or don’t feel like having sex all of a sudden, talk about it so both of you can overcome any issues together.
#18 Sex talk. For a relationship to be successful, sexual intimacy is as important as romantic gestures. Talk about your sexually sensitive spots and erogenous zones, positions you like or want to try, your secret sexual fantasies and whatever it is that turns you on in bed. It’ll be exciting and revealing at the same time.
#19 Wellbeing and wellness. While health issues may not be easy to talk about, it’s still a great way to get to know each other and enhance each other’s lives.
#20 Advice. Communication isn’t always about getting to know more about each other. Every now and then, offer advice and share your suggestions on what your lover could do to improve their life or their work.
#21 Your past. The past is always exciting and fun to talk about. You don’t need to talk about past relationships or your sexual details if that makes you feel uncomfortable. But talk about your childhood, your young dreams and all the little things that make you who you are.
#22 The future. What do you want to do with your life? This topic can make for intellectual conversations that can help you get to know your partner’s view about life and the pursuits that matter to them.
#23 Preferences. Sometimes, it’s the little things that can give both of you hours of fun conversations. Talk about each other’s likes and dislikes. After all, preferences always change with time, and the more you know about your partner’s present preference, the better you’d know them.
#24 Shared goals. Plan shared goals together. It could be about painting a wall, running a marathon the next year or just about anything else. When you plan things or try something new together, it brings both of you closer.
#25 Personal opinions. If you truly love each other, don’t hold your thoughts back if you want to share what’s on your mind with your lover. It doesn’t matter if it’s a suggestion or a warning, if you feel it, say it. Your partner will feel good to know that you’re always looking out for them no matter what. It always feels good, doesn’t it, when you know that you have a special someone who cares so much about you?
Use these topics to talk about in your relationship, and you’ll never run out of interesting conversations. And both of you will feel closer to each other with each passing day too.